Have a Routine. Get your child’s school things ready the night before and go over the morning routine with them. Try to keep it the same as much as possible and make sure to get up early enough so you aren’t rushed. The less stress at home, the better chance for a happier drop off.
Good-bye Ritual. Try coming up with a short and sweet goodbye ritual for you and your child to do each morning. Let him help come up with it but don’t let him change it the morning of. One more hug may not seem like a big deal but it can quickly turn into a power struggle. Also, sneaking away without saying goodbye may further increase her anxiety over you leaving her.
Stay Positive. If your child sees you looking upset or anxious it will only amplify their own feelings of fear. Even if you are sad, be positive and smile. This helps reassure them that school is not a scary place and they have no reason to be worried
Sunny Thoughts. Practice saying positive affirmations to your child such as, Even though I have to leave you I will see you again this afternoon!
Role-Play, Some children it can help to actually practice what you will do in the morning beforehand. Get in and out of the car, walk them up to the house, and do your goodbye ritual. If you are able to it might even be good to practice it at the school so they are familiar with the environment.
Make a Change, Some children may find it easier for them to say goodbye to you at home (riding the bus) or in the car rider line. Consider changing the way you take your child to school.
Get Some Help! Talk to your child’s teacher or school counselor for additional support at school.
Whatever you do, DON’T TAKE THEM HOME! Unless they are truly ill (fever or vomiting), taking them home will only make it worse. This teaches your child that school is a scary place and it reinforces their negative behavior. Tell them first thing in the morning that you will be leaving for school at 7:00, they can cry if they want to and you will be there to pick them up at 3 pm. Then don’t talk about it any more!
Resources
5 Parent-Tested Ways to Ease Separation Anxiety Article
Start School With a Smile Article
Separation Anxiety and Separation Anxiety Disorder Article Sesame Street for Parents. Create a log in to learn more!